OVERCOMING BETRAYAL
You were passed over for a promotion by an employer who promised it. A friend shared private information about you with others. A spouse was unfaithful.
A betrayal is the violation of a person’s trust or confidence. And it stings—to say the least.
Betrayal is a test. And it’s one that often comes just before a promotion. It is not the betrayal itself, as Higher Source does not cause betrayals, but how we respond to them that becomes a stepping stone to greater abundance in your life.
If you’ve suffered a betrayal recently, or want to be prepared should one come, here is how to respond to a betrayal in a positive way that will expedite you to overcoming it’s influence.
1. Resist Negative Energy
“You can't depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.”
Mark Twain
What makes a betrayal so painful is that it is almost always unexpected, but not to positive expectations…the manifesting power of Kinetic Belief is always available and always lying in wait to see if we will align with it to give the essence of our Higher Being life.
Yes, negative vibrations are lying in wait for your defeating reaction, hoping to get you to turn your insights away from your highest vision and onto the offending party…waiting for that one moment when you step off the line of positive Kinetic Belief - waiting for you to take revenge, speak wrong words, and give up on a dream the Creator placed in your genius of purpose.
That’s why it’s so critical that in the midst of the pain and disappointment—which quite often runs deeper than you knew it could—you have to cast it down to resist. Resist the temptation to lash out, resist the desire to defend yourself or demand that the other person admit their faults. Resist, resist and then…go ahead—resist some more.
Remember, you’re not the only person (not even by a longshot) who has gone through a betrayal. You are not alone. We have all had an opportunity to give into the negative emotions…so this time, let’s resist and instead—choose to advance and become even greater.
2. Get Rid of Resentment
“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." - Buddha
The secular world of psychology has identified what they believe to be the five stages of grief. A betrayal is a loss—often a deep one—and can involve a period of grieving. The five stages include shock or denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and acceptance. You have likely felt one or more of these emotions after a betrayal. Feeling sad, disappointed or even angry after a betrayal is normal.
Just like the grief of losing a loved one, we have to guard against prolonged grieving because grief and sorrow are dangerous. The words grief and sorrow can also be translated as sickness, weakness and pain. But any way you translate them, they’re all pieces of the same destructive puzzle.
You don’t have to put up with them any more than you have to put up with sickness, poverty or disease.
You have emotions, just don’t let them have you. As you work through your feelings, acknowledge that you’re hurt, but get rid of all bitterness by forgiving others of their negative egos, which is a poison to the mind and body, and a robber of manifestations. When you give yourself the “luxury” of rehearsing what was said or done over and over—and then becoming hurt and angry again and again—you’re setting yourself up for a life-time of failure.
Instead, journal your truest, most authentic vision, get aggressive about your highest viewpoints, about becoming the Alpha wolf of your own existence—you are in charge here, not your negative feelings.
Get rid of all bitterness by forgiving your betrayer. When you do, you go free from them. Bitterness is the root of most diseases and mental health issues. It is a thief. But unconditional love is a great protector in our lives. You don’t have to like somebody to unconditionally love them. :)
Staying mad will never bring justice. We should never wish bad things on another, but we also move forward with the knowledge that attraction is at work in everyone’s life…it will avenge any wrongs done to you. You may not see when or how, but recompense will come…if you remain in your Light and Love-walk of powerful Kinetic Belief.
3. Perspective Allows You to Unconditionally Love Your Betrayer
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” Martin Luther King, Jr.
What??
Before you sigh, with exasperation, hear me out.
Make no mistake, you don’t have to like your betrayer. You don’t have to ever trust your betrayer again. You don’t even have to see them again. But for manifesting Kinetic Belief to work in your life, you do need to unconditionally love your betrayer. Not warm, squishy-hug love, but the decision of love.
How do you love a betrayer?
You know they also have a Higher Being inside, one that is Light and Love, just like yours, even though it’s not yet awakened. So forgive the part of them. You forgive the part of them that you’re connected with by Higher Consciousness. You refuse to seek revenge. You even look for an opportunity to do good to them. Just as important, but no less challenging, you don’t speak badly about them.
Sound like a tall order? It is for the ego mind, in fact, it’s not possible for your ego.
But ironically—it is the ultimate form of self love, that can only come from agreeing with your Higher Being.
4. Don’t Let “It” Define You
Difficult times do not define us, they refine us. - Steven Canyon.
Many betrayals come in the form of rejection. Rejection in the workplace, rejection by a spouse, rejection of value through a violation of trust by someone close to you.
An act of rejection is of the ego, plain and simple. And it doesn’t belong to you. So when you are actively responding to a betrayal, you have to come to a place where you don’t let it define you.
This is a vital time to recognize your value from the conscious Mind of your Creator. See your qualities, see your value, feel your worth - your current life essence and existence mean something far beyond what your mind can comprehend. Trust the value of your worth.
As much as we may not feel like it, a betrayal is a profound time to look within.
Even if the other party was 98% in the wrong, was there anything you could have done differently? If we want to change anyone or anything - we change ourselves.
…a final thought.
Responding to a betrayal is a process, and the most important part of that process is deciding to allow healing to come. Healing comes from Higher Source, not the other party’s apology, not a change in circumstances—neither of which may ever come.
Some people don’t want to “get over it.” They feel that it is their right to hold onto hurt and a grudge against the offending person. What they don’t realize is how much they are hurting themselves and those around them. It will affect your health, your relationships and will hold back from your best life, the one you were sent here to experience.
Forgive and go free. Speak words of healing, that you are an overcomer, allow the power of Kinetic Belief to move into the most intimate and vulnerable spaces of your true self.
No matter what it feels like right now, know this—you CAN come out on the other side stronger, happier and more powerful than you ever thought of or imagined.
